Writer-Marriages
Sunday, November 7th, 2004 09:57 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rolanniMany thanks to everyone who offered congratulations on our anniversary. In view of our mutual promise of "twenty-four more," we celebrated by buying a stove. The appliance that came with the house has been for some time actively dangerous, and we'd been putting off buying a new one until various tangles got un-. However, it transpires that Home Despot was offering a sizable discount and no payments/no interest until January 2006, so our new stove will be arriving on the 17th, assuming we can get the propane company motivated to come out and unhook the old one.
On the question of writer-marriages. Yesterday,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
msagara said, "Given that I'm a writer, I've always admired writer-marriages; I'm not sure I could keep one together..."
Now, it happens that I have a very difficult time imagining being married to someone who wasn't a writer. Back before the rocks cooled, I dated non-writers, and the degree with which they mostly Didn't Get the whole writing thing sooner or later came to be a large problem in the relationship (this can also, of course, be written as "...the degree to which I mostly Didn't Get the whole not-being-a-writer thing..." *g*).kinzel's first wife -- a non-writer, but otherwise a perfectly nice woman, and a great reader -- absolutely failed to understand the writing thing, though I believe she wished to be supportive.
So, those writers who are married to folks who aren't writers -- how do you keep the marriage working, and the lines of communication open, given the weirdnesses of creativity?
On the question of writer-marriages. Yesterday,
msagara said, "Given that I'm a writer, I've always admired writer-marriages; I'm not sure I could keep one together..."Now, it happens that I have a very difficult time imagining being married to someone who wasn't a writer. Back before the rocks cooled, I dated non-writers, and the degree with which they mostly Didn't Get the whole writing thing sooner or later came to be a large problem in the relationship (this can also, of course, be written as "...the degree to which I mostly Didn't Get the whole not-being-a-writer thing..." *g*).
kinzel's first wife -- a non-writer, but otherwise a perfectly nice woman, and a great reader -- absolutely failed to understand the writing thing, though I believe she wished to be supportive.So, those writers who are married to folks who aren't writers -- how do you keep the marriage working, and the lines of communication open, given the weirdnesses of creativity?
